Exercise

This maybe somewhat incoherent writing because I’m trying to write all the info down as fast as I can like as if they were notes.
Everyone is driven by two forces.

1. The need to avoid pain
2. The desire to gain pleasure

Those two forces are the drive for all human behavior.

If you don’t use what you’re learning, that’s the only reason why the series wouldn’t work.

What we have to do is change what we link pain and pleasure to. The pleasure of being in a relationship, or the pain of being rejected is the mental process we go through, but we generally automatically associate the pain first. The thing is do you want the pain of never meeting the girl, or do you want the pain of being rejected. Which pain is worse to choose? People associate being in a relationship as being pleasurable, and that’s why many people want it. Even if you get into a relationship, it doesn’t mean that the thing will last. There are weeds in the garden, just pull them out, and move on.

People generally don’t look at what we link pain and pleause to. And so we are reactive instead of being in control. People don’t buy the best product anymore. They buy the product that they link the most pleasure to, and the least pain to. Management tries to find out what people link pain and pleasure to.

Which would you work harder for? Would you save up $25,000 dollars, or would you work harder to keep someone from stealing $25,000 dollars. You’d probably work harder to prevent the pain.

Og Mandino Excerpt.

Pain is a greater motivator than pleasure. When you reach your threshold you decide to change. Just focus that not taking action will cause massive pain.

Use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. And unfortunately for most people they don’t control that. People associate more money with pain because they think that making money will cause pain (lonely, bossy, etc). People sabatoge their success because they don’t want the pain that the success will cause only because they associate it with pain. You need to focus on what will be the pain if I don’t do it. If I don’t follow through what will the pain be emotionally, physically, and spiritually. What is it going to cost me?

Repetition is the mother of skill.

SUCCESS JOURNAL

1. What are 4 actions that you need to take in your life that you’ve been putting off?
2. What is the pain that you associate with the action that prevents you from doing it?
3. Write down all the pleasure you’ve got from not following through.
4. What will it cost you if you don’t change (get emotional with it)?
5. What will you gain from taking the action right now (make a huge list of all the things you’ll gain)?